Partner & Family Guide

Supporting someone with a gambling problem is incredibly difficult. This guide is here to help you navigate this challenging journey while taking care of yourself.

First, Know This

This is not your fault. Gambling addiction is a recognized disorder, not a choice or a moral failing. You didn't cause it, you can't control it, and you can't cure it. But you can support their recovery while protecting yourself.

You matter too. Your well-being is just as important. Taking care of yourself isn't selfish—it's necessary. You can't pour from an empty cup.

Gam-Anon Family Support Line

Support specifically for families affected by gambling

Recognizing the Warning Signs

Problem gambling often hides in plain sight. These signs may indicate your loved one is struggling.

Lying about gambling activities or hiding bank statements

Borrowing money frequently or having unexplained debt

Becoming secretive about phone, computer, or whereabouts

Mood swings - irritable when not gambling, euphoric when winning

Neglecting responsibilities (work, family, bills)

Selling possessions or valuables

Gambling longer or with more money than intended

Becoming defensive or angry when gambling is mentioned

Chasing losses - gambling more to win back money

Withdrawal from family activities or social events

Understanding the Addiction

Gambling addiction changes the brain's reward system, similar to substance addictions. Your loved one isn't choosing to hurt you—their brain has been hijacked by the addiction. This doesn't excuse harmful behavior, but it helps explain it.

Support Resources for Families

Gam-Anon

A 12-step fellowship for family members and friends affected by gambling addiction. Free support groups in-person and online.

Visit Gam-Anon

National Problem Gambling Helpline

Free, confidential support available 24/7 for both gamblers and their loved ones.

1-800-522-4700

NCPG - For Families

The National Council on Problem Gambling offers specific resources and information for family members.

Family Resources

Text & Chat Support

If you prefer not to call, you can text or chat with trained counselors.

Text "SUPPORT" to 53342

You're Not Alone Either

Millions of families are affected by gambling addiction. Your feelings of frustration, anger, sadness, and hope are all valid. Recovery is possible—both for your loved one and for you. Take it one day at a time.